The damaging effect of porn. As of this should be surprising to anyone!
Everyone knows advertising works by changing peoples perceptions of certain products. Very few ads these days simply work to inform about the details of a product. Instead they work carefully to cultivate an attitude in the consumer, to foster an approach to the product, based on a desire to “act’ a certain way. Businesses spend billions of dollars doing this for brands. Yet certain academics or groups with particular social agendas have for decades claimed porn has “no effect” on users minds and attitudes.
Well hello? What planet do you live on?
Pornography is not the same as being sexually liberated. As this study shows, pornography essentially is about women being sexually commodified - even women who are not the freely-consenting performers in pornographic products.
Feminists can and should uphold the right of women to their sexuality, and to not have their sexual nature determined by churches or other institutions. But that is not the same as insisting that sexuality is “value-free”. Because “value-free” is precisely commodification, objectification. This is not what we want to be teaching young men and women.
It follows exactly my comments on the earlier post about how our brains work. Certain brain states are activated and others are shut down through the training that comes from exposure to un-censured (as opposed to un-censored) pornographic images.
It is shame, in a good way, that modifies our response to behaviours and teaches us what is right and wrong. It is shame that teaches us that other people are living moral agents, not tools or objects to be used.
Women who aspire to a world where they are no longer viewed by men as objects to be used and perhaps abused, should let the men and boys around them know, “I don’t want a pornified lover”. It is not being “a prude”. It is being a real radical - a rebel and a leader and a genuine feminist. This does not mean they deny themself the right to sexual fulfilment. It means they really do reject the toxic notion that porn instills, that they and any woman is simply a body, an object, to be used for sexual gratification by men.
And men who are sincere when they claim they are “for women’s rights” and supportive of the “feminist” cause also need to stop kidding themselves that they can be “for women” while being a “porn consumer”. They need to break the porn habit themselves, as well as let their male friends know “I want to love women, not pixellate them”.
We can do this. It just starts with individual choices. Private choices.
I would love someone to turn this slogan into a meme:
"Kiss a non-pornified lover, cherish the difference"